It’s getting late in the morning, you need to reach your office after dropping off your kids to school, but they just won’t budge! Quite a handful of mothers, whether working or not, experience similar situations where they know that their children need to attend school no matter what but those children refuse to listen to reason. Moreover, despite all the temper – tantrums before reaching school, these same kids come back and declare that they had the best day ever! Infuriatingly relatable, isn’t it?
If you find that your child is struggling with reluctance to go to school, it is essential to listen to their reasons. If their resistance is more than just a desire to avoid school, then before consulting a psychotherapist in Palm Beach Gardens, consider the following tips –
1. Talk to the school staff
Most schools these days have a designated social worker or counsellor for students. If you feel like your child will resist going to school, get in touch with them before the school day begins. Get an assessment from them to evaluate the need for online therapy for co-dependency. It will also be helpful to create an open communication dialogue with teachers to understand better how your child’s day went and whether the mornings have been going well or are a struggle. The more support you have, the easier it will be for you to leave your child, and the more adults there will be to comfort your child when you leave.
2. Take away the unknown and scary fears
Whether it is a new school or a new grade which means a new teacher – many kids find it hard to adjust to changes due to the understandable fear of the unknown. Try to get your child comfortable with the idea of the new school or a new teacher. If the school offers a tour, take your child with you before the session begins. The more familiar the child is with what their days will look like, the less scary it all becomes.
4. Reward preferred behaviors
Reward and praise the behavior that is preferred! If your child takes a bath without being asked five times, acknowledge this! You could create a visual chart where the child gets a sticker next to each task they complete. Arrange for an appropriate reward depending on how many stickers are on the chart at the end of the week.
5. Ignore undesirable behaviors
Pick your battles. As long as they are not doing harm to themselves or others, ignore them. Situations like this are frustrating and can provoke the need to yell. Take a deep breath, and remember that children are just tiny people with big emotions. Things may worsen before they improve, but remember, they will improve.
Be kind to yourself! You are doing the best you can, even though you might feel like quitting sometimes! Remember that you are not an imperfect parent/caregiver. Find support, prioritize self-care, listen to music, and try some grounding techniques. It is also essential to remember to validate your child’s emotions and feelings. While this is all easier said than done, and it can be incredibly challenging when feeling unsupported or having overwhelming mom guilt, remember that you are not alone!
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